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The engagement



My mind is flying to exactly nine years ago, when you sat down nervously in front of me.

March 3rd 2003
You wore that hat with shabby tee and pale green shorts. You bowed your head down, couldn't stop moving your feet...a quirk that i learned about you that day. We're losing words. Only sat in silence. You were busy with your cell phone. Nokia circa 2003? Can't recall the type, but I'm pretty sure it's tiny.
Minutes gone by and you passed me on your cell phone. You said, "read it..please."
Confusedly, I took it and read what was in the message box. Turned out, it's a declaration of love. He text something like, "dieter love intan. Would you be my girlfriend?"
I was like, euw so corny innit?
Unlike any other girl who supposedly cheer up, I was caught in the moment. Nothing happened between us except a dead silence. I've known this guy for only 3 months. Too quick to step our feet on further level.
I said, "sorry. I can't give you the answer in this very moment. Just give me more time to think."
You insisted, "I want an answer now."
I replied, "then it's a no."
You bowed your head down one more time and whispered, "then I'll wait till you say yes"  
...


I knew he disappointed, but it didn't move me. I didnt really care what he felt to be honest. I had no feeling on him. I thought we're just friends. He visited me a lot, not only he came to my school (we went to different school), but he peeped sometimes between classes. Those repetitive attention was too much. I thought, ah.. Aquarius man. Spontaneous.
On a bright side, we were having fun. A lot of fun. He was this bubbly kinda man whom makes me laugh. Not only LOL or LMAO. But ROTFL. He's also a motorcycle freak, at least for my liking. I hated his bike though.. cos it's noisy, but it's something that he was proud of.  He build it himself, he once said to me. With pride.

From that night on, I began to open my heart and see if I might like him. Our relationship passed by as usual. Him peeking on me at school, asked about me through our mutual friends, etc. My feeling for him was grown. I thought, I'd give him a shot.
Fast forward to a night on end of march, I wrote him a letter (he still keep it, up until now). A letter of acceptance I guess? I wrote about how I feel about him, and that I like him too, and willing to be his girlfriend. The letter was made reversed, if you know what I mean. It readable through mirror.

.....

March 29 2003
"hey can you stop by my house today? Got something for you."
"what is it?"
"just take it and don't read it until midnight!"
"I'm curious."
No answer.

He came to my house and my maid gave the letter to him. I didn't personally give it to him. Dunno why. As he went by, I text him one more time and wrote, please don't read it till midnight. He replied, "OK I will. But until then, I'm gonna die waiting."
Why midnight? I thought it would be fun if our special day fell on special date: 30.03.03. That's all really.

March 30 2003 12AM
He called me and said, "I've been waiting for this long and I can't even read what you wrote!"
I said, "you'll find out eventually."
I hang up.
Minutes later he called me again and screamed, "is this for real?!"
"yeahhhh!" I said."thank you so much, I promise to never disappoint you.."


...
and my life has changed ever since. When our relationship started, I've no idea what I'm sign up for. . I just try to be the best for him and give me my all. 
Day after day, month after month, year after year.. After a turbulence relationship yet we're still going strong. Till one day we think about marriage and I told him that I scared. But he said, "I think we've had screwed everything from day 1. You don't have to be afraid, there is nothing left to be screwed."



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Fast forward to nine years later.. I'm sure it's coincidence that our official engagement shared the same date with the date when he told me he loved me. But then, there is no coincidence :')

March 4 2012
We make it Official..

burst into tears of joy


meetings between two families

finally merged

introducing, my mom & sister :)

tasted the food


look what Daddy & Mommy produced! one gigantic family?

moment of truth..


P.S: actually there are many more photos. but left on the previous stolen laptop. I'm working on it! Hope the photographer still have the files..





Comments

Soh Hong Wei said…
Sweet... congrats !!! ^^
siz said…
how sweet... this is really a fairytale in real life.. i wish nothing but the best for both of you..
Intan Juliana said…
Thank you!
I never thought I'd be marry my highschool boyfriend. It's just plain ridiculous.
Siz, just believe that good thing comes when you least expect it :') I am also a firm believer..
Himawari said…
So sweet, Tan.. Ur relationship with Dieter is like a fairy tale for me and I believe it will end up happily ever after.. Wish I can have a love live like yours.. ^^ -Lia-
Himawari said…
OMG!!! It's so sweet, Tan.. For me your relationship with Dieter is like fairy tale and I believe it will end up with happily ever after.. I'm happy for u.. Wish I can be like that also.. ^^
-Lia-
Intan Juliana said…
Lia...
It wasn't a fairytale.. We fight for it, it's not like walking in a park that fulfilled with rainbows and candies. Our relationship has gone through many phases with its 1001 problems for more than nine years :( But of course, we made it.
Our love makes us stronger and eventually we've succeed to bring it up to the next level. It was never easy and full of struggle along the way.

Thank you for visiting my blog anyway xox never give up on love x

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