cracking the in law code

Aha! 

Gotcha! 

Lines by lines of whatsapp and bbm seem never enough when it comes to momster-in-law subject. A lot of friends of mine were gushing about how their in law interfere every part of household....and their kids...and their husband...and their everything. How fastidious their in law are. And so on and so on.  There's technically nothing they could do about that because they still live in the same roof with their in laws. As a friend, all I could do was just cheering them up and tell them my motto, "smile and nod". Whatever goes back at you, just smile and nod. 

I've been blessed with a tiny little home with my husband, so as far as I concerned, it's something that I shouldn't worry about. I couldn't be happier. We could literally do what we want to do. Cooking or mop the floor with bikini? Check. Did some crazy stunts at the sofa? Check. Sleep at dawn and wake up at noon? Check. Caught up with a fight and cried all night? Check.

.....Until about three weeks ago, my mommy in law lived in our house. No she wasn't moved in. She just  needs to check the house next door that bought by D's sister. While the house is in its finishing phase, and D's sister is hundreds miles away (She currently lives in Surabaya now). So his Mom will live in that house, hence she wanna make sure everything is in place. 

It's OK for the first few days.... But a week goes by, two weeks, and now we're entering the third week. Those old text messages from my friends slowly come to life. I became awry in what I do. 

You know how much I HATE washing dishes. But when my MIL's around, she loved everything neat and clean. So whenever there's a dirty plate or spoon (even one), she would eventually wash it. And it kinda makes me feel bad, cos we have different habit. I tend to wash all at once at the end of the day, she love to wash dishes like, every minute. 

Another thing, she woke up at what... Five, perhaps? So she always the one who turn off the lamps, open the curtains, and sometimes mop the house. How am I suppose to do with it? I can't wake up at five. In fact, I hate waking up early nowadays. I'd rather stay in my bed with my husband than waking up and do nothing. Instead, it makes me feel bad too.

Even my husband, whom is literally her son. When hubby came home, she ran from inside to open the front door. I mean, really? He brought his own keys. And she immediately showered him with questions. in details. From AtoZ. Left me with nothing but a glass of mineral water. She's done all my parts, thank you.

Most of all, I finally lose the feeling of owning the house. Because it seems she take care of everything and left me with nothing. It makes me look like a bad wife. We all know that she's the figure of perfect mother and wife. At least that's what my hubby told me. This ain't competition but who am I compare to the perfect 10 outta 10 Mom?

I remember read somewhere that rule #1 about household: There is only one lady in the house. And I couldn't agree more. Now I feel lazy to do something that I used to do, because she's already done it all. There goes my romantic time with hubby. There goes my lazy times in the sofa... Where I could sit and watch the TV all day and talking to my baby inside the womb. Or where I can enjoy my personal time, trying on some shoes and paint my nails. If I previously looking forward for my day off (I always take one day off during my work week), now I looking forward to go to work everyday. 

I told hubby about this and he's apologize for the inconvenience caused. I'm still pregnant after all. He doesn't want I feel sad during my pregnancy. He promised that it won't be long anymore. Thank God he can understand my awkwardness. Well I know his mom is alright. She's just too kind, too loving, and too caring. Maybe I'm the one who too troubled. Maybe I'm the one who too intimidated.

In a meantime, the one and only code when it comes to in law is still, smile and nod.