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the thin red line

despite the differences, there is at least 1 thing I have in common with Mr.D.. sense of music!
we can just stayed up all night only to listen to our favorite jam or watch our favorite concert on youtube. discovering some new music to listen to. that's one of our favorite quality time. we talked about everything and all of sudden it's 3 am. lol.

actually i dont get much sleep. the kids were bed approximately on 7-8PMish. and then mr D and I would go straight to our paperwork.. paperwork done, tea time starts. we always choose tea over coffee..
well at this moment we listen to some music while we exchanged stories about our day, his and my worry (which is totally different).. he would constantly worried about his job, while i'm all about the kids. the convo went on and on, we usually didn't stop until 1 am on weeknight. or 2-3am on weekends. the thing is, the alarm clock will wake us up on 6am. so... hello there sleep deprived. but since it's our only quality time, then no complains here. we have to make our relationship works, no? i mean, this one particular activity although cost us lack of sleep, but nourish our relationship. i do cherish our late night convo..

Anyway... we explore wide array of music. We've always been a rock/alternative fan. RHCP, FF,  audioslave, metallica, queen,  RATM... But we open for everything else especially music that exists before us. he would introduce me to bill withers and nina simone. i made him listen to minnie ripperton and carole king. but really, our music taste is perfectly the same. we live in a same frequency 😂.

Unlike me, he never ever listens to 2000 ish - nowadays music. i still willing to give an ear to check what's in the charts today, but he completely shut his ears to today's music. which i can totally understand, since they're all shitty and are like "here today, gone tomorrow". oh but thank goodness he also admires M and amy. there are a few of M's songs that we can listen together, even he really liked the confessions tour.

Oh i have one funny story... When our first years of dating, like years and years ago (i guess it's circa 2003 - 2004). He gave me a cassette (yes its still the cassette era! ) of Chinese / Taiwanese boyband called 5566. I was like, WTF. He said that almost all the girls in his class were crazy about this boyband so he thought I might like it too. Hahaha. When he found out my music collection, we both laughed.. Cos it was exactly the same music that he listen to around that time.. Limp bizkit, RHCP, incubus etc. And we threw away that 5566 casette lol.


I think this is one of the key of successful relationship. Find something that you both like in common. Sports, watch movies, cook, I mean the choice is endless. Activity that you both can enjoy. Well in our case, it's music. Just like M said in one of her song, "music makes the people come together". Couldn't be further than the truth.
The other one is sense of humor. Seriously, without it, we would be like two dead fish in the water. Our relationship is not perfect, but we always find a way to make it work.

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